Dealing with Anger
Here is a simple article of mine that shows how we deal with anger .

It also shows how most of the times we unknowingly go through, "contagion".

This is a state wherein we mix our reactions arising out of an incident that disturbs us to an extent that we often allow our rationality to be irrationality.

The simple examples serve as good illustrators and indicate how we often behave.
I have an Aunty,
My aunty loves eating brinjal,
I hate eating brinjal,
So I hate my Aunty.

What I did is I mixed my aunty with brinjal.
I must understand that my aunty is not brinjal. (lol --> Lesson of Learning)

Similarly,
Ganpat is my peon,
Ganpat comes late to office,
I do not like people coming late,
I do not like Ganpat.
I have mixed Ganpat as a person with his -ve quality.

My boss is nagging,
I do not like nagging,
I hate my boss.
I hate all naggers.

Everytime i see a nagger or a person nagging the picture of my nagging boss comes before the eyes of my brain.
Friends, what we do is confuse ourselves and mix people and their -ve qualities.
We must learn to Seperate people from their qualities and love people unconditionally.

Lets work on dealing with the -ve quality.

We need to understand, that by you getting angry, -ve, qualities in aperson may not always improve or a person may not be cured of them.
Instaed by getting angry we are only giving ourselves ulcers.
Why people get angry is because they have high expectations from others.

These could be high standards of performance and when this does not match, they flare up.

Let me ask you one simple question,

By you getting angry, "CAN A DONKEY BECOME A HORSE?"
Its sheer IMPOSSIBLE, that a donkey become a horse, yes, your blood pressure
may rise, and you may develop ulcers in the process.

Although you can not make a Donkey a Horse, but you can always make a Donkey a Better Donkey.

Infact, if you just look at the good and +ve quality of the donkey, and acknowledge it, there are many chances that the donkey could well be a "better donkey".

Lets see how we can manage anger, now: Some tips..... Stop REACTING .....! Instead; PAUSE - THINK & then ACT (PROACTIVE)
Try this out for yourself now and see where you stand.
List down five things which make you angry, be specific, then rank them from 1 to 5, using 1 for the one which angers you most.

Next to each one write down the main reason why it makes
you angry. (People, Situations, Events which we are basically the Trigger)
Finally, write down next to each one what you do when you are angry in such a situation.
Include your physical responses as well as what you do and discuss your list with your partner.
Now find a near and dear one with whom you may sit and work to see if you can think of an alternative assertive response to each situation, or when ever the, Trigger is pulled.. what can you do instead..

Your journey towards a Better You has begun.

May your day be filled with inspiration and passion!