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Friday, October 12, 2012

Suggested Ways of Reducing Chances - Suicide

A Suicide case besides affecting and impacting the attemptor also affects and impacts the near and dear ,along with the immediate social circle of the person attempting suicide.

However many a suicide case could be possibly prevented if and only if the warning signs are recognized and quick action is taken by those around .

Look - Out for the Warning Signs, which are;

Situational:-
  • Recent loss of a loved one (death or divorce).
  • Survivor of a previous suicide attempt.
  • Loss of prestige (could be loss of job or business).
  • Serious illness (chronic pain or exhaustion with no end in sight).
  • Exhaustion of resources - could be real or imaginary (money or credit lines).
  • Family history of suicide.
  • A close friend commits suicide.
Behavioral:-
  • Talking or writing about death/suicide.
  • Giving away personal possessions.
  • Change in behaviors/mood.
  • Falling grades.
  • Ending close relationships.
  • Crying a lot.
  • Not smiling as much.
  • Not showing expression when they normally would.
  • Expressing negative impressions when normally they wouldn't.
  • Talking about themselves negatively or harshly.
  • Not participating in regular activities.
  • Buying weapons, pills, etc.
  • Reading a lot about suicide.
Emotional :-_
  • Sense of personal failure.
  • Overwhelming sadness.
  • General lack of interest.
  • Feelings of hopelessness.
  • Guilt.
  • Withdrawal/isolation.
  • Feelings of being a burden to others.
Verbal:-
  • "It's too late now."
  • "I can't go on."
  • "I have nothing to live for."
  • "I'm just so tired of life."
  • "No one cares about what happens to me."
  • "There is nothing left to do."
  • "What's the use."
  • "They won't have to deal with me."
  • "I'm at the end of my rope."
  • "They're better off without me."
  • "I just want the pain to stop."
  • "Nobody gets me."
  • "You just don't understand!"
So, if you happen to see any or more than the above warning signs in a person, remember you have to  help the person as best and as quicky as possible.

However be aware !
A Word of Caution!

Be careful in that every person with any of the above signs may not turn out to be a suicidal case.
It's not easy ! but remember for C LU E S:-

C ----> Connect - Make contact with the person. Actively demonstrate that you hear what is being said and understand that his or her pain is real.

 L ---->Listen - Listen very carefully. You don't have to have all the answers - just be there and let him or her know and feel that you care.

U -----> Understand - Don't tell him or her how s/he should feel or what s/he should do. Just express your desire to support and help understand what s/he is feeling. Reflect what is said back to the person.

E ----->Express Concerns - Let the person know that you are concerned and want to help.

S ----->Seek Help - The person's safety is the number one priority, and you might not be able to handle it on your own. Talk with the person about seeking help, either through a doctor (preferred, if you discover they have a plan, the means and the intention of carrying it out) or priest / spiritual person . Suicidal thoughts cannot be kept a secret.

Talk Frankly. One of the worst things for a person contemplating suicide is feeling that no one understands or cares about him or her. Such people are often extremely frustrated over talking with friends and family only to find that they are placated with statements like, "Oh, you'll feel better soon - this too shall pass."
Suicidal people feel like they've been trying to tell others how much pain they are in, but nobody hears them. The key to helping is to help this person stop feeling invisible. Though it seems counter-intuitive, saying, "Are you thinking of killing yourself now? Do you have a plan for doing it?" can bring tremendous relief to someone like this. They can feel that, at last, someone has heard them clearly. This is the Truth.

Assess Lethal Intent:-

If the person you are talking with confesses contemplating suicide right at that moment, and also says s/he has a plan in mind for doing it, you need to figure out how serious s/he is and get all the information you can so whatever help you send is the best it can be:
  • Ask: Does s/he have a weapon? Is it with him or her?
  • If it's pills, what kind? Where are those pills right now?
  • Has s/he thought about this before this moment? Recurring ideas about doing away with oneself point to a very serious threat
Ask the person to put the items s/he plans to use in another room while you're talking:-

 S/he may say, "Why? I can just go get them again." You say, "Right. So why not just put them away for the moment? You can go get that whenever you want. Right now, I need you to stay with me and focus on our conversation." This may sound harsh or blunt, but it is actually very effective.

First, it focuses the person on someone other than him or herself. Second, it is almost a direct command. If this person is in the same room, or on the phone with you at this stage, s/he sees you as a minor authority figure. Use that authority to get the person to follow your instructions, even if it's only for a moment.

Get a friend to help you:-

Having ideas (especially ones they have been entertaining awhile), a plan, and the means to commit suicide constitute a very serious, immediate danger, and you should seek help or friends assistance immediately.

If you're on the phone, it's best not to let this person know that's what you're doing though. Ideally, you will have a friend on your end who can quietly go and make the calls to send help to the suicidal person while you stay on the line and try to console or otherwise at least delay the person until help arrives.

If you are alone, try to use another phone, if possible, to text someone and get them to help. If you are physically with the suicidal person, it's a little easier, because suicides rarely happen with someone else present.

Staying with the person until s/he sleeps or calms down some is recommended. never tell them how good their life is. because that will hurt them more. tell them that you are there for them so that way they will open up to you and tell you everything.

Now Remember , that the best most economical , yet humane way of helping is through ;

Tender Loving Care[TLC]:-

Human beings are sensitive, we sadly are unable to make out who is sensitive and to what extent or degree. Possibly by the time we do even think we know or begin to relaize it may be too late.
Human Relationships are fragile. Be careful in interacting with others. This means one should be soft yet firm in speech, where one is interacting with others when in positions of authority either within or outside the home, office, or anywhere.

Stop Playing with People's Emotions, Expectations:-

Be clear , gentle, mean what you say in your speech.

Live up your speech or what you say with your actions.

Avoid giving false promises to others.

Know your Limitations; whether Emotional, Social, Physical, Personal, Social, Official.

Learn and Practice Effective and Complete Communication. 

Many an avoidable situation has come about simply because the communciation was incomplete and ineffective. 

Remember , " a few words are better than a shroud of silence and avoidable looks or bodylanguage".

Amongst relations as far as possible always use the touch ; either the hug or the pat. It means a lot and evokes feelings of; being there , cared for, love and trust.

So now that you have  read my bit here , go ahead , write in your comments , practice what you like here , yet affirm to yourself to help avoid suicidals.

Best,

 

Reasons why People commit Suicide

I am not obsessed with Suicide.
 
My effort in putting ou these posts is for people to read , to gain information , be alert  and  be better equipped to interract or intervene when face to face with suicidals.
 
So What are , or What could be the Reasons for People Attempting Suicide?
It could be any of those cited below;
 
  • They’re depressed.
  • They’re psychotic.
  • They’re impulsive.
  • They’re crying out for help, and don’t know how else to get it.
  • They have a philosophical desire to die.
  • They’ve made a mistake.
87% of persons committing suicide were diagnosable with a mental disorder based on history from their friends and family following their death.
The factors correlated with suicide risk, include drug addiction, availability of a means to commit the act, family history of suicide, or previous head injury.
 
Socio-economic factors such as unemployment, poverty, homelessness, and discrimination may trigger suicidal thoughts. Poverty may not be a direct cause, but impoverished individuals are a major risk group for depression, itself a risk factor for suicide.Recent research shows that, controlling for own income and individual characteristics, individual suicide risk rises with others’ income.A history of childhood physical or sexual abuse or time spent in foster care is also a risk factor.
Hopelessness:-The feeling that there is no prospect of improvement in one's situation---is a strong indicator of suicide.
Perceived burdensomeness:- The feeling or thought that is one a burden on another, coupled with other sensitive points is a strong risk factor.
Feelings of loneliness:-
 
A lack of social support, a deficit in feelings of belongingness and living alone are or could be crucial predictors of a suicide attempt.
People who feel or find themselves as socially cut-off or isolate themselves either totally or by maintaining only the least and unavoidable social contact are yet a major risk factor group.
Substance Abuse:-
 
Substance abuse is the second most common risk factor for suicide after major depression and bipolar disorder.Both chronic substance misuse as well as acute substance abuse are associated with suicide.This is attributed to the intoxicating, disinhibiting, and dissociative effects of many psychoactive substances. Substance Abuse could be ; Alcohol , Benzodiazepines, Cigarettes, Cocaine, Methamphetamine, Opioids [ Drugs like Heroin, Opium, etc] .
Medical conditions:-
 
Sleep disturbances such as insomnia, sleep apnea.
50% of individuals with a serious mental illness "have general medical conditions that are largely undiagnosed and untreated and may cause or exacerbate psychiatric symptoms."
Sometimes ailments which may or may not be life threateneing , yet that are perceieved by a sensitive patient as socially avoidable, could bea major risk factor.
 
Mental disorders:-

Certain mental disorders are often present at the time of suicide.
  • mood disorders.
  • substance abuse
  • schizophrenia.
  • personality disorders.
Major depression and alcoholism are the specific disorders most strongly correlated with suicide risk. Risk is greatest during the early stages of illness among people with mood disorders, such as major depression or bipolar disorder
Depression is among the most commonly diagnosed psychiatric disorders. Within the next twenty years, depression is expected to become the leading cause of disability in the nation and possibly the second largest cause of disability.
While the psychological and medical communities no longer classify acts of self-harm as suicide attempts, recent research has indicated that the presence of self-injurious behavior may be correlated to increased suicide risk.While there is a correlation between self-harm and suicide, it is not believed to be causal; both are most likely a joint effect of depression.
This may also be classified as deliberate self-harm and is most common in younger people, but has been increasing in recent years in people of all ages.
Most people who attempt suicide do not complete the act on their first attempt. However, a history of suicide attempts is correlated with increased risk of eventual completion of a suicide.
 
Biology:-
 
Some mental disorders identified as risk factors for suicide often may have an underlying biological basis.
Brain-derived neurotrophic factor;
Dysregulation of Brain Deprived Neutrophotic Factor[BDNF] functioning has been shown to be a possible factor in several mood disorders associated with suicidal behavior, including major depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, substance use disorders and it could also be an independent factor for suicide.
There is evidence that there may be an underlying neurobiological basis for suicide risk independent of the inheritable genetic factors responsible for the major psychiatric disorders associated with suicide. Having a parent / relation who has committed , or attempted suicide is a strong predictor of suicide attempts.
 
Problem gambling:- Early onset of problem gambling increases the lifetime risk of suicide.
Media coverage:-
 
Studies have suggested that how the media presents depictions of suicide may have a negative effect and trigger the possibility of suicide contagion also known as the Werther effect.The risk is greater in adoloescents who may romantacize death. It appears that while news media has a significant effect, that of entertainment media is equivocal.
Prevention:-
 
Suicide prevention is a term used for the collective efforts to reduce the incidence of suicide through preventive measures. Various strategies restrict access to the most common methods of suicide, such as firearms or toxic substances like pesticides, and have proved to be effective in reducing suicide rates. Adequate prevention, diagnosis and treatment of depression and alcohol and substance abuse can reduce suicide rates, as does follow-up contact with those who have made a suicide attempt.
Screening:- 
to detect those at risk of suicide may be one of the most effective means of preventing suicide in children and adolescents.various screening tools in the form of self-report questionnaires to help identify those at risk. however, a high rate of false-positive identification and those deemed to be at risk should ideally have a follow-up clinical interview.
Treatment of mental illnessThere are various treatment modalities to reduce the risk of suicide by addressing the underlying conditions causing suicidal ideation, including, depending on case history, medical,pharmacological, and psychotherapeutic talk therapies.
The conservative estimate is that 10% of individuals with psychiatric disorders may have an undiagnosed medical condition causing their symptoms,upwards of 50% may have an undiagnosed medical condition which if not causing is exacerbating their psychiatric symptoms. Illegal drugs and prescribed medications may also produce psychiatric symptoms/ Effective diagnosis and if necessary medical testing which may include neuroimaging to diagnose and treat any such medical conditions or medication side effects may reduce the risk of suicidal ideation as a result of psychiatric symptoms, most often including depression, which are present in up to 90-95% of cases.

Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) reported varying degrees of clinical effectiveness in reducing suicidality. Benefits include a reduction in self-harm behaviours and suicidal ideations.Cognitive Behavior Therapy for Suicide Prevention (CBT-SP) is a form of DBT adapted for adolescents at high risk for repeated suicide attempts

Monday, October 1, 2012

Teachings of Guru Shri Raghavendra Swamy & His Final Address to His Devotees.


Teachings of Shri Guru Raghavendra Swamy;

v Always Show and Have Respect to Your Mother, Father, Guru, Elders.
v Shastras have all the answers to day to day life’s difficulties and challenges.
v Shastraic way of life is the royal road to peace, prosperity and happiness.
v Without right living, right thinking will never happen.
v In short our life itself is worship.
v Every action is a puja.
v This life is precious.
v Not even a second that has gone will come back.
v Listening to the right shastras and always remembering Him is the highest duty, without which, life becomes meaningless.
v Have devotion to the Lord.
v Accepting the Lord's supremacy wholeheartedly is true devotion.
v Live with peace and harmony.
v Be kind and courteous to others feelings and ideas.
v Do not hurt the feelings of others.
v Don’t be proud, be away from egoism.
v Think about others, act softly, be selfless, polite and kind.
v Repentance feeling one should have whenever one does some mistakes.
v We are all the servants of Sri Hari.
v Always speak the truth.
v Universal Affection and Love for Fellow Creatures one should have in his life.
v Respect and regard the elders Stottamaru and Swaottamaru.
v Though I will not be with you in person my presence will be in my works and in my brindavan.
v You can serve me best by listening to, studying, preserving and propagating my works.
v Now I take leave of you.
v My blessings to you."
v “Raghavendra Gururayarasevisiro…Sowkyathijeevisiro”

SHRI GURU RAGAHVENDRA SWAMY’s LAST & FINAL ADDRESS
Dear Devotees the day has come that I have to disappear from your sight. From tomorrow you cannot see me like this.

At the same time I am not giving up my body (Deha Tyaaga), I will not be away from my body and at the same time I am obeying the Sankalpa of Sri Hari and the prerana of Sri Vayudevaru, so entering the Brindavana today Sa Shareera and stay there for seven hundred years to Bless the Devotees of the world.

As per the order of Sri Hari and Sri Vayudevaru and the opinion of the great Yatis to whom I respect and regard them as guru.

They will be always blessing me while sitting in the Brindavana.

Do not feel sorry that I am disappearing from your vision.
As per the sankalpa of Sri Hari and the blessings of Praanadevaru I will be quite comfortable in the Neela Brindavana.

Devotees I assure you that Sri Hari is too kind towards me that Sri Hari will take care of me in the Neela Brindavana when I will be inside with yoga. Do not feel agony.

I am with you always here in Mantralaya.
Whenever you call me I will immediately listen and solve your problems whether it is small or big.

The Brindavana stones are very sacred and most holy.

My successor Sri Yogeendrateertharu will look after the Mutt, Vidya Mutt and the same tradition of Paatha Pravachana, Grantha Rachana, Bhakta’s Uddhaara will be continued.
You all have to obey him as you were regarding and respecting towards me.

The Punya will be distributed to the devotees by the Anugraha of Sri Hari.

Do not feel sorry for my absence.

I will be in Mantralaya Neela Brindavana.

Sri Narasimhadevaru, Rama, Krishna, Vedavyasadevaru, Jeevottama Vayudevaru’s have ordered me to stay at this Brindavana in the Mantralaya for the uddhaara of the devotees. Mantralaya will be the most sacred place Pavitra Yaatra Sthhala

Devotees will acquire all the required chaturvidha purushaartha.

Not only Indian devotees, but also the devotees of the world who are living across the sea.
My Sri Hari is sarvaswa for me, Sri Hari has provided broad outlook, universal affection to all.

Devotees respect and regard the Vedas, Upanishads, Geeta, Brahma sutra and the philosophy of our Sri Sri Madhwaacharyaru.


Our Culture, universal mankind always throbs for the welfare of all the chetanas, jeevas as per their ability and nature.

We have to worship SriManNarayana.He is the only God who can free from all these births and deaths and impart Moksha to us:

NarayanosowParamoVichintayahaMumukhshubhiKaramaPaashaadmushmaat.

Our divine shruti says this; Sri Hari is the only God to bestow permanent happiness i. e. Moksha.

Sri Hari has to Bless all of us, so I am entering Brindavana sitting with padmaasana in the japa of Sri Hari always.
So I am concluding my avatara today on this shraavana bahula bidige.

From this day onwards till seven hundred years I will be in the Brindavana as per the adesha of Sri Hari.
The accumulated punya and the punya acquired in the japa in the Brindavana is completely reserved for all the devotees of the world, irrespective of caste, creed, religion and nation.

Dear Devotees, please do not have hatred towards other religions and sects.


Other caste people they may offer the Naivedya in their own way and style.
But our Sri Hari will accept the things which are dear to him in his own form of purity and sanctity.

Sri Hari is the only God who can impart Moksha to the able jeevas.
Shruti is describing that Sarvottama Sri Hari Narayana is the only God to relieve us from all the sorrows and miseries and take us to Permanent happiness i. e. Moksha:

Narayanosow Paramo Vichintyaha Mumkshubhihi KarmaPaashad Mushmaat.

Devotees in order to fulfil the will and the Desire of Sri Hari, today I am concluding my avatara and stay in the Brindavana for seven hundred years and always engage myself in the Japa of Sri Hari.


For this noble task I am entering Brindavana Sa Shareera.

As per the Manudharma love and respect your own religious formalities and the traditions with unalterable faith and devotion

Live with peace and harmony.

Be kind and courteous to others feelings and ideas.

Do not hurt the feelings of others.
Don’t be proud, be away from egoism.

Think about others act softly, be selfless, polite and kind.

We are all the servants of Sri Hari.
Always speak the truth.

Universal Affection and Love for Fellow Creatures one should have in his life.

Respect and regard the elders Stottamaru and Swaottamaru.
Repentance feeling one should have whenever he does some mistakes.

Be kind towards all the living animals, creatures, maintain good character and always be in touch of noble philosophy of Sri Madhwacharya which inculcates the real values of life and become a reader of Sadgranthas.

Though I enter Brindavana the Granthas of Sri Madacharya,The Teekas of Malkheda Sri Jaiteertharu and the granthas composed by me are all here, read them, follow them and act accordingly.

Dear Devotees today I wish to say that Strong faith belief and devotion towards Sri Hari is the only way to liberate from all the sorrows and worries.


Sri Hari is the only omnipotent and omniscient who can impart Chaturvidha Purushaartha to us.

YOU ALL MUST LEAD A HAPPY LIFE THAT IS THE ONLY INTENTION. FOR THIS I AM GOING TO BE HERE IN THE NEELA BRINDAVANA FOR A LONG JAPA OF SRI HARI:

Samaayaat Samaayaat Purushaarthhino Janaaha SamaashrayadhvamasmachreeHrutpadmasthalam Ramaapatim

Devotees you are all desirous of Dharma Artha Kaama Moksha, So pray him,worship him, Ramaapati Laxmipati Sri ManNarayana is in my heart.


You will really acquire all the good things in your lifetime.

SARVAE JANAAHA SUKHINO BHAVANTU


SAMASTU SANMANGALAANI BHAVANTU.

Saying So, Mantralaya Sri Raghavendrateertharu with great concern and affection addressed in Mantralaya to the gathered mass on that day of Shraavana Bahula Dwiteeya. With smile raised his hands towards the devotees Blessed and gave Abhaya to all.

Then Rayaru climbed the steps of Garbhaalaya one by one while entering the 6x6 square Antarguha, Rayaru holding the hand to Sri Yogeendrateertharu, bade farewell with a smile. On the already spread out krishnajina, sat in Padmaasana with Danda Kamandalu and Japamaala.
For that moment there are no words to describe shining face of Rayaru with Divine Bliss.

Completely involved in the world of Sri MoolaRama, Narahari, Rama, Krishna and Vedavyasa and engaged in the JAPA: OM OM OM OM OM OM holding the Japamaala in the hand.
 All took the Divya Darshana of Gururayaru for the last time.
The Omkaara filled the whole universe at that time. Devotees with emotion cried with loud voice:

From now on wards we cannot see you, you will be in this Brindavana, this is your last Darshana:

GURUSARVABHOUMA DAYAAGHANA BHAKTAVATSALA KALIYUGA KAMADHENU KALPAVRUKSHA NAMO NAMO

The Divine Pontiff Mantralaya Sri Raghavendrateertharu disappeared from our sight, became permanent in the Brindavana of Siddhi Kshetra Mantralaya.

“Bichali Sri Appanacharya Priya Mantralaya Sri Raghavendrateertha Gurubhyo Namaha”.
                                                 HARI OM

Wednesday, August 8, 2012

SUICIDE - MENTAL HEALTH !

As Mental Health Professional,who has been reading the various cases of suicide and attempted suicide, i was urged to put out my two bit for the benefit of all those who care to read and know.

This is not a Bible.

It is neither a textbook of Psychology.

It is simply put an attempt in bringing out the seriousness of the issue and providing people with an opportunity to know better than they previously did.

It is an attempt in helping people to understand others or try to understand other fellow human beings .

It is an attempt for those who read to share who others and society at large that Suicide is not an Act of Crime or intention to Commit a Crime.

Suicide is a Serious Mental Health Issue that needs to be addressed
with T.L.C.---> Tender Loving Care.

SUICIDE WARNING -- Depression carries a high risk of suicide. Anybody who expresses suicidal thoughts or intentions should be taken very seriously.

The best way to minimize the risk of suicide is to know the risk factors and to recognize the warning signs of suicide.

Take these signs seriously. Know how to respond to them. It could save someone's life.

Suicide in simple terms is, “The action of killing oneself intentionally”-

Suicide is the process of purposely ending one's own life.

The way societies view suicide varies widely according to culture and religion. For example, many Western cultures, as well as mainstream Judaism, Islam, and Christianity tend to view killing oneself as quite negative.

One myth about suicide that may be the result of this view is considering suicide to always be the result of a mental illness.
Some societies also treat a suicide attempt as if it were a crime.

In India , “Suicide is treated as a crime”.

In some countries like Japan; however, suicides are sometimes seen as understandable or even honourable in certain circumstances, such as in protest to persecution (for example, hunger strike), as part of battle or resistance (for example, suicide pilots of World War II; suicide bombers) or as a way of preserving the honour of a dishonoured person (for example, killing oneself to preserve the honour or safety of family members).

Are There Warning Signs of Suicide?

A Suicidal Always Talks / Calls. [

It maybe a Subtle Call / Talk. Avoid Ignoring it or Taking / Treating It Lightly]


Warning signs that someone may be thinking about or planning to commit suicide include:-

Always talking or thinking about death

Clinical depression -- deep sadness, loss of interest, trouble sleeping and eating -- that gets worse

Having a "death wish," tempting fate by taking risks that could lead to death, such as driving fast or running red lights

Losing interest in things one used to care about

Making comments about being hopeless, helpless, or worthless.

Putting affairs in order, tying up loose ends, changing a will

Saying things like "it would be better if I wasn't here" or "I want out"

Sudden, unexpected switch from being very sad to being very calm or appearing to be happy

Talking about suicide or killing one's self.

Visiting or calling people to say goodbye.

Be especially concerned if a person is exhibiting any of these warning signs and has attempted suicide in the past , between 20% and 50% of people who commit suicide have had a previous attempt

What Should I Do if Someone I Know Shows Warning Signs of Suicide?

First, if someone you know appears to be depressed and is contemplating suicide, take that person seriously.
Listen to what he or she is saying.

Take the initiative to ask that person what he or she is planning.

But don't attempt to argue him or her out of committing suicide.
Rather, let the person know that you care and understand and are listening.

Avoid statements like: "You have so much to live for."

If someone you know appears to be depressed and talks about suicide, makes a suicidal gesture, or attempts suicide, take it as a serious emergency.

Listen to the person, but don't try to argue with him or her. Seek immediate help from a health care professional.

Depressed people are often suicidal. It is a key symptom of the disease.

Some studies show that the neurotransmitter serotonin plays a central role in the neurobiology of suicide. Researchers have found lower levels of serotonin in the brainstem and cerebrospinal fluid of suicidal individuals.

In addition, suicidal behavior may sometimes runs in families.

Remember, any talk of suicide is always an emergency.

Have the person talk with a health care professional immediately.

Where Can I Get Help for Suicide and Depression?

Encourage a suicidal or depressed person to seek the help of a mental health professional. Because the person feel so hopeless that they may not think it's possible to be helped, you'll probably have to be persistent and go with that person.

If your loved one appears to be in imminent danger of committing suicide, do not leave him or her alone.

Remove any weapons or drugs he or she could use.

Accompany him or her to the nearest medical emergency facility.

During treatment, be supportive.

Help the person remember to take antidepressants or other prescribed medications and to continue any other therapy that's been prescribed.

What are the effects of suicide?

The effects of suicidal behaviour or completed suicide on friends and family members are often devastating. Individuals who lose a loved one to suicide (suicide survivors) are more at risk for becoming preoccupied with the reason for the suicide while wanting to deny or hide the cause of death, wondering if they could have prevented it, feeling blamed for the problems that preceded the suicide, feeling rejected by their loved one, and stigmatized by others. Survivors may experience a great range of conflicting emotions about the deceased, feeling everything from intense emotional pain and sadness about the loss, helpless to prevent it, longing for the person they lost, and anger at the deceased for taking their own life to relief if the suicide took place after years of physical or mental illness in their loved one. This is quite understandable given that the person they are grieving is at the same time the victim and the perpetrator of the fatal act.
Individuals left behind by the suicide of a loved one tend to experience complicated grief in reaction to that loss. Symptoms of grief that may be experienced by suicide survivors include intense emotion and longings for the deceased, severely intrusive thoughts about the lost loved one, extreme feelings of isolation and emptiness, avoiding doing things that bring back memories of the departed, new or worsened sleeping problems, and having no interest in activities that the sufferer used to enjoy.

What are some possible causes of suicide?

Although the reasons why people commit suicide are multifaceted and complex, life circumstances that may immediately precede someone committing suicide include the time period of at least a week after discharge from a psychiatric hospital or a sudden change in how the person appears to feel (for example, much worse or much better). Examples of possible triggers (precipitants) for suicide are real or imagined losses, like the breakup of a romantic relationship, moving, loss (especially if by suicide) of a friend, loss of freedom, or loss of other privileges.
In most countries, women continue to attempt suicide more often, but men tend to complete suicide more often. Although the frequency of suicides for young adults has been increasing in recent years, elderly males continue to have the highest suicide rate. Other risk factors for taking one's life include single marital status, unemployment, low income, mental illness, a history of being physically or sexually abused, a personal history of suicidal thoughts, threats or behaviors, or a family history of attempting suicide.

Data regarding mental illnesses as risk factors indicate that depression, manic depression, schizophrenia, substance abuse, eating disorders, and severe anxiety increase the probability of suicide attempts and completions.

Nine out of 10 people who commit suicide have a diagnosable mental-health problem and up to three out of four individuals who take their own life had a physical illness when they committed suicide.

Behaviors that tend to be linked with suicide attempts and completions include violence against others and self-mutilation, like slitting one's wrists or other body parts, or burning oneself.

Risk factors for adults who commit murder-suicide include male gender, older caregiver, access to firearms, separation or divorce, depression, and substance abuse.

In children and adolescents, bullying and being bullied seem to be associated with an increased risk of suicidal behaviors.

Specifically regarding male teens who ultimately commit murder-suicide by school shootings, being bullied may play a significant role in putting them at risk for this outcome.

Another risk factor which renders children and teens more at risk for suicide compared to adults is that of having someone they know commit suicide, which is called contagion or cluster formation.

Generally, the absence of mental illness and substance abuse, as well as the presence of a strong social support system, decrease the likelihood that a person will kill him- or herself.

Having children who are younger than 18 years of age also tends to be a protective factor against mothers committing suicide

Celebrity Deaths May Trigger Suicide;- Big-time celebrities affect our lives in intimate ways. Today, through television and the Internet, the lives of luminaries like Leno and Letterman, Cher and Madonna, can become interwoven with our own. And if a celebrity who matters to us suddenly dies, we care.

A Celebrity’s death adds to existing feelings of sadness and distress in some people. For them, this public tragedy was a final, private burden that pushed some of them over the edge.

Psychologists recognize this; "We know there is a 'contagion factor' in suicide," "We know when a teenager commits suicide, there's increased danger someone else in the same school may also commit suicide.

Most often, suicide is an impulsive act. In the case of Princess Diana's death, there may have been people who already felt suicidal. When they heard the news, it heightened their own preoccupation with death."


Closer home in India, in some of the southern states; a death of a celebrity either political or a cine star has also taken in its train the lives of some common people who indulged in suicide and thus taking their own lives.

Not just the loss of a celebrity, but the loss of a friend or family member may also plunge someone into a painful re-examination of their life. Even a holiday or birthday can do it, These are times when people reflect on their lives and ask whether they've gotten where they wanted to.

A person who is feeling depressed should seek care.
"If you feel down in the dumps -- not just for one day but for many days -- this should be viewed as a medical symptom, like a cough,
"See your doctor, and request a complete physical exam. Keep in mind that depression may be a sign of physical illness. A health care professional should review all your medications, since some medications may lead to depression."

In addition to your primary care physician, advice from a mental health professional can be very helpful.

However, if & when someone is really feeling suicidal, waiting for a professional appointment, even just for a day or two, may feel like a very long time, or may be just too late. In that Situation, Reach out to Someone -- a friend or family member -- for help.

"Suicide is very much an impulse of the moment, so anything you can do to create some postponement, some thinking process, will be helpful,"

"What will work can vary from person to person, but anything that puts some pause between initial impulse and the action is a good idea.

If you feel you are in real danger of harming yourself, go to a hospital emergency room."

What are the signs and symptoms for suicide?

Warning signs that an individual is imminently planning to kill themselves may include;
the person making a will,
getting his or her affairs in order,
suddenly visiting friends or family members (one last time),
buying instruments of suicide like a gun, hose, rope, pills or other forms of medications,
a sudden and significant decline or improvement in mood,
or writing a suicide note.

Contrary to popular belief, many people who complete suicide do not tell their therapist or any other mental-health professional they plan to kill themselves in the months before they do so.

If they communicate their plan to anyone, it is more likely to be someone with whom they are personally close, like a friend or family member.

Individuals who take their lives tend to suffer from severe anxiety or depression, symptoms of which may include moderate alcohol abuse, insomnia, severe agitation, loss of interest in activities they used to enjoy (anhedonia), hopelessnessof situuations, and persistent thoughts about the possibility of something bad happening.

As suicidal behaviors are often quite impulsive, removing guns, medications, knives, and other instruments people often use to kill themselves from the immediate environment can allow the individual time to think more clearly and perhaps choose a more rational way of coping with their pain.

Thoughts & Behaviour Assessment

The risk assessment for suicidal thoughts and behaviors performed by mental-health professionals often involves an evaluation of the presence, severity, and duration of suicidal feelings in the individuals they treat as part of a comprehensive evaluation of the person's mental health.

Therefore, in addition to asking questions about family mental-health history and about the symptoms of a variety of emotional problems (for example, anxiety, depression, mood swings, bizarre thoughts, substance abuse, eating disorders, and any history of being traumatized), practitioners will frequently ask the people they evaluate about any past or present suicidal thoughts, dreams, intent, and plans.

If the individual has ever attempted suicide, information about the circumstances surrounding the attempt, as well as the level of dangerousness of the method and the outcome of the attempt, can and may be explored. Any other history of violent behavior might be evaluated.

The person's current circumstances, like recent stressors (for example, end of a relationship, family problems), sources of support, and accessibility of weapons are often probed.

What treatment the person may be receiving and how he or she has responded to treatment recently and in the past, are other issues mental-health professionals tend to explore during an evaluation.

How can people cope with suicidal thoughts?

In the effort to cope with suicidal thoughts, silence is the worst enemy.
Suggestions for helping people survive suicidal thinking includes:-
Engaging the help of a doctor or other health professional, a spiritual advisor, or,

by immediately calling a suicide hotline ,or,

going to the closest emergency room or mental-health crisis center.

In order to prevent acting on thoughts of suicide, it is often suggested that individuals who have experienced suicidal thinking keep a written or mental list of people to call in the event that suicidal thoughts come back.

Other strategies include;

having someone hold all medications to prevent overdose,

Removing knives, guns, and other weapons from the home,

Scheduling stress-relieving activities every day,

Getting together with others to prevent isolation,

Writing down feelings, Including positive ones, and

Avoiding the use of alcohol or other drugs.

How can people cope with the suicide of a loved one?

Grief that is associated with the death of a loved one from suicide presents intense and unique challenges. In addition to the already significant pain endured by anyone who loses a loved one, suicide survivors may feel guilty about having not been able to prevent their loved one from killing themselves and the myriad conflicting emotions already discussed.

Friends and family may be more likely to experience regret about whatever conflicts or other problems they had in their relationship with the deceased, and they may even feel guilty about living while their loved one is not.

Therefore, individuals who lose a loved one from suicide are more at risk for becoming preoccupied with the reason for the suicide while perhaps wanting to deny or hide the cause of death, wondering if they could have prevented it, feeling blamed for the problems that preceded the suicide, feeling rejected by their loved one and stigmatized by others.

Some self-help techniques for coping with the suicide of a loved one include avoiding isolation by staying involved with others, sharing the experience by joining a support group or keeping a journal, thinking of ways to handle it when other life experiences trigger painful memories about the loss, understanding that getting better involves feeling better some days and worse on other days, resisting pressure to get over the loss, and the suicide survivor's doing what is right for them in their efforts to recover.

Many people, particularly parents of children who commit suicide, take some comfort in being able to use this terrible experience as a way to establish a memorial to their loved one. That can take the form of everything from planting a tree or painting a mural in honor of the departed to establishing a scholarship fund in their loved one's name to teaching others about surviving child suicide.

Generally, coping tips for grieving a death through suicide are nearly as different and numerous as there are bereaved individuals. The bereaved person's caring for him- or herself through continuing nutritious and regular eating habits and getting extra, although not excessive, rest can help strengthen their ability to endure this very difficult event.

To help children and adolescents cope emotionally with the suicide of a friend or family member, it is important to ensure they receive consistent caretaking and frequent interaction with supportive adults.

All children and teens can benefit from being reassured they did not cause their loved one to kill themselves, going a long way toward lessening the developmentally appropriate tendency children and adolescents have for blaming themselves and any angry feelings they may have harbored against their lost loved one for the suicide.

For school-aged and older children, appropriate participation in school, social, and extracurricular activities is necessary to a successful resolution of grief.

For adolescents, maintaining positive relationships with peers becomes important in helping teens figure out how to deal with a loved one's suicide.

Depending on the adolescent, they even may find interactions with peers and family more helpful than formal sources of support like their school counselor.

What is the treatment for suicidal thoughts and behaviors?

Those who treat people who attempt suicide tend to adapt immediate treatment to the person's individual needs.

Those who have a responsive and intact family, good friendships, generally good social supports, and who have a history of being hopeful and have a desire to resolve conflicts may need only a brief crisis-oriented intervention.

However, those who have made previous suicide attempts, have shown a high degree of intent to kill themselves, seem to be suffering from either severe depression or other mental illness, are abusing alcohol or other drugs, have trouble controlling their impulses, or have families who are unwilling to commit to counseling are at higher risk and may need psychiatric hospitalization and long-term outpatient mental-health services.

Suicide-prevention measures that are put in place following a psychiatric hospitalization usually involve mental-health professionals trying to implement a comprehensive outpatient treatment plan prior to the individual being discharged.

This is all the more important since many people fail to comply with outpatient therapy after leaving the hospital.

It is often recommended that all firearms and other weapons be removed from the home, because the individual may still find access to guns and other dangerous objects stored in their home, even if locked.

It is further often recommended that sharp objects and potentially lethal medications be locked up as a result of the attempt.

Vigorous treatment of the underlying psychiatric disorder is important in decreasing short-term and long-term risk.

Contracting with the person against suicide has not been shown to be especially effective in preventing suicidal behavior, but the technique may still be helpful in assessing risk, since refusal to agree to refrain from harming oneself or to fail to agree to tell a specified person may indicate an intent to harm oneself.

Contracting might also help the individual identify sources of support he or she can call upon in the event that suicidal thoughts recur.

Talk therapy that focuses on helping the person understand how their thoughts and behaviors affect each other (cognitive behavioral therapy) has been found to be an effective treatment for many people who struggle with thoughts of harming themselves.

School intervention programs in which teens are given support and educated about the risk factors, symptoms, and ways to manage suicidal thoughts in themselves and how to engage adults when they or a peer expresses suicidal thinking have been found to decrease the number of times adolescents report attempting suicide.

I have consciously avoided going into citing medications for the same as that is beyond the scope and purview of this note.

The Indian Scenario:-

Four of India's southern states — Tamil Nadu, Andhra Pradesh, Karnakata and Kerala — that together constitute 22% of the country's population recorded 42% of suicide deaths in men and 40% of self-inflicted fatalities in women in 2010.
Maharashtra and West Bengal together accounted for an additional 15% of suicide deaths.
Delhi recorded the lowest suicide rate in the country. In absolute numbers, the most suicide deaths in individuals, aged 15 years or older, were in AP (28,000), Tamil Nadu (24,000) and Maharashtra (19,000).
The first national study of deaths in India, published in the British Medical journal The Lancet, says that suicide has become the second-leading cause of death among the young in India.

Methods of Suicide

A study of the methods of suicide reveals that individuals choose from a variety of acts to end their lives.

The choice of a method for suicide or attempted suicide is related to the person's culture and tradition, and depends upon the intent, seriousness, situation (time and presence of family members), motive and availability of means.
A distinct difference is noticed;
Self-poisoning with a variety of substances ranging from pesticides to commonly available household products is the commonest method, also show a high incidence of self-poisoning.

Hanging is the other frequently adopted method,

Self-burning (immolation) is a method commonly adopted.

Jumping off high rises is yet another form.

Jumping off bridges near sea fronts or across rivers is another way of committing suicide..

This pattern in the methods of committing suicide is also likely to change over a period of time depending on the availability of methods to people, indicating the need for constant surveillance.

Urban/rural differences

An increase in the number of suicides has been noticed in urban areas, suggesting that it may be linked to urbanization, industrialization, migration and changing socioeconomic patterns. Though detailed urban/rural comparisons are not available, in India, nearly 50-60% of suicides still occur in rural areas. This variation may not reflect the exact picture of urban / rural differences due to differential reporting in rural vs urban areas. Many factors, such as societal and family pressures, limited access to health care, and education and employment determinants, may play a role in these variations.

Age variations
There is also a distinct difference in the occurrence of suicides among various age groups.

In India, the highest rates of suicide (30-60%) are seen between 15-29 years, followed by 30-44 years. Of the total deaths by suicide in individuals aged 15 years or older, about 40% suicide deaths in men and about 56% in women occurred in individuals aged 15-29 years.

Suicide deaths occurred at younger ages in women (average age 25 years) than in men (average age 34 years).

Educated persons were at greater risk of completing a suicide.

This indicates, suicide is on the increase among the youth, leading to loss of lives in the most productive years.

Gender differences

It seems that a greater number of men committed suicide though an almost equal ratio of 1.2:1 exists in India, for men and women, respectively.

Attempted suicides

Attempted suicides are on the increase in the country. The magnitude of attempted suicides (parasuicides) is not clearly known for no single reporting agency compiles this type of data.

For every completed suicide, nearly 10-20 persons attempt suicide.

Nearly 10-30% of registrations in hospital emergency departments are due to attempted suicides. Patients who attempt suicide are provided care in government or private health care institutions. Many cases exist where families hush-up and conceal such cases or attempts on account of the social stigma involved.

Data on attempted suicide may be underreported because attempting suicide is a crime in many countries, and this information may be suppressed by families or health care providers at the request of the person's family.

Some studies report the presence of suicidal thoughts among 5-10% of the population in India.

Suicidal thoughts are higher among women in the reproductive age group, according to a recent study in Bangalore.

Such thoughts are related to age, gender, situation and ongoing crises in different walks of life.

Those living in socially underprivileged environments and suffering from mental health problems, such as depression and alcohol abuse, are more prone to such thoughts.

During the economic crisis, it was found that 58% of respondents reported suicidal thoughts.

Clear differences exist in the nature, pattern and intent of attempted suicides and completed suicides, though they are events or steps of the same process.

Stressors are frequently immediate family and interpersonal conflicts Stressors are generally varied and include terminal illness and socioeconomic factors.

Professor Vikram Patel of the London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine in his studies told TOI that;

1.87 lakh people committed suicide in India in 2010.

Overall, more Indian men commit suicide than women, but the male to female ratio for suicides is smaller in India than in many Western countries, in particular among youth.
Studies have suggested that social factors such as violence and depression are key determinants of suicide in women."
Prof Patel pointed out to lack of national strategy for suicide prevention in India.
He said, "Suicides can be prevented through interventions like banning the most toxic pesticides and teaching rural communities on safe storage of pesticides.

India should also start mental health promotion for young people through schools and colleges and introduce crisis counseling services and services for treatment of depression and alcohol addiction."

"Compared to most other countries, suicide rates are especially high in young adults and, in particular, young women for whom suicide rates in India are four to six times higher than in developed countries.

The suicide rates vary 10-fold between states with the highest rates in the southern states of India,"

Suicide deaths among men were almost 11-times higher in Maharashtra as compared to Delhi. When it came to women, it was four times higher in Maharashtra than Delhi.

"The large variations we observed between states clearly point to the role of as yet poorly understood social factors in influencing the risk of suicide in India.

We recorded a reduced risk of suicide versus other causes of death in women who were widowed, divorced or separated, compared with married women and men," Prof Patel said.

The study says, suicide claims twice as many lives in India as HIV-AIDS and almost as many as maternal deaths in young women.

Suicide kills nearly as many Indian men aged 15-29 as transportation accidents.

Studies have shown that the most common contributors to suicide are a combination of social problems, such as interpersonal and family problems and financial difficulties, and pre-existing mental illness.

"The large variations we observed between states clearly point to the role of as yet poorly understood social factors in influencing the risk of suicide in India.

We recorded a reduced risk of suicide versus other causes of death in women who were widowed, divorced or separated, compared with married women and men," Prof Patel said.

The study says, suicide claims twice as many lives in India as HIV-AIDS and almost as many as maternal deaths in young women.

Suicide kills nearly as many Indian men aged 15-29 as transportation accidents.

Studies have shown that the most common contributors to suicide are a combination of social problems, such as interpersonal and family problems and financial difficulties, and pre-existing mental illness.

My interactions with some acquaintances reveals the following;

**Some of this material below has appeared in the various media.

* Failure in Love is another cause for committing suicide by teenagers and amongst youth.
But at first we must understand what Love is . Love means your wishes of best life for your partner . If he or she thinks that he or she will be happy with another person , you must admit and respect it , as you respect your love . " Failure does not mean God has abandoned you , it does mean God has better plan for You " Love means sacrifices if you think only of yourself , then you only love yourself . " If you like the Tajmahal it does not mean it should in your garden . We all live in the same world , and if you truly love someone he or she may live at another place , but your heart always feel connected . Do not think of your loss or gain all the time , try to share or give someone what you can , at least a smile or you time.

When cinema came to India, devotional laden music scores used to be the rule, until the early 1990s, and they depicted love between man and woman in its chaste form which did not hurt Indian cultural values. The case of separation between lovers yearning for reunion. Or just frolicking, flirting in good taste. Today all these values of chastity, waiting for reunion, etc, are questioned and efforts are made also to use through films and T.V. serials that suicide and murder as almost vital elements.

With better social commitment to help people mould good taste through the media, it is not difficult to reverse the trend of their largely corruptive influence on young men and women both educated and uneduated.

Parents should be more affectionate to the children , they must not always worry or be obsessed about the future of their children .

If children get love and comfortable peaceful childhood then they can face any problem positively in future . If the children are used to prayer than they can also feel how grateful is God to give us an opportunity to live in this beautiful world . The beauty of the panaromic nature in all her splendour and majesty is here alongwith the whole world for you .

Avoid thinking only about your position in the society or bank balance .

You can be the happiest person in the world if you just share and learn to share in an atmosphere and environment of give and take of your thoughts & feelings with your friends or dear ones besides listening to their problems also .

Thank GOD for being blessed with what you have.

Avoid lamenting always for what you do not have.

People can opt to learn Yoga / Sudarshan Kriya / Deep Breathing Exercises.



Best,

Prasad.

Sunday, June 17, 2012

,"Do Away with Annual Reviews",

Dear Reader,
Following my last post on,"Appraisal",i got a mail on,"Do Away with Annual Reviews",which has been reproduced here below.

To have it reflected here, i have taken the permission of the person who originally sent the mail, which is clearly seen in the transcripts copied here.

As my grey cells are collating further thoughts on the same to be posted here, enjoy the read and drop me your thoughts.
Best,
Prasad.

On Sun, Jun 17, 2012 at 6:45 PM, Harvinderjit Kaur wrote:
Sure. Please go ahead.
Have a good and blessed weekend ahead.
Kind regards,
Harvinder
--- On Sun, 6/17/12, prasad agali wrote:
From: prasad agali
Subject: Re: PLS READ -Re: [Trainers Forum] Q&A: Do Away with Annual Reviews
To: "Harvinderjit Kaur"
Date: Sunday, June 17, 2012, 7:50 PM
Greetings of the day Harvinder,
Just to know if i can reproduce your mail in it's enitrety on my blog.[link is below].
wishing you a nice weekend
Thanks,
best,
Prasad.


From: prasad agali
Subject: PLS READ -Re: [Trainers Forum] Q&A: Do Away with Annual Reviews
To: "Harvinderjit Kaur"
Date: Saturday, June 16, 2012, 10:51 PM
Greetings of the day Harvinder,
Congrats and Bravo,
With your latest article as shared below, you have once again hit the nail on the right head .
This very thought was in my brain for a long time.
Guess this inpsires me to take the ideas out of my [box] - brain and spill them out.
It's a matter of perspective after all and till the world understands , accepts and applies, let them be the ones asleep, while the few march on.
Thanks,
Best
Prasad.

On Sat, Jun 16, 2012 at 8:13 PM, Harvinderjit Kaur wrote:

Should We Dispatch With Annual Performance Reviews?
[Workforce Management | May 17, 2012]

Q: What are the alternatives if we scrap the annual performance review?

- Torn in HR, warehouse/distribution, Virginia Beach, Virginia

A: The issue is not your performance-review system. It's probably a deficiency in coaching skills among your managers.

Keep the annual review, but add the following elements:

a) Launch a recurring training program to help managers develop coaching skills. If you don't do this, none of your other efforts really matter.

b) Work with your senior leaders to implement a system whereby managers are held accountable for ''one-on-one check-ins'' with all the employees they directly supervise. These sessions should occur at least once a month. Implementing this requirement forces your managers to practice and hone their own coaching skills.

c) Be prepared to serve as a coach to the coaches. They are going to need your help.

Coaching is the replacement for the annual performance review. In fact, the lack of coaching skill is the No. 1 reason for performance reviews. The one-on-one sessions should truly be of a check-in nature - no rating scales or other formal assessment measures. The manager schedules time for employees to discuss their own list of items.

Your managers are there to knock down barriers for employees as much as possible. Once each employee is done with his list, the manager uses the coaching skills to talk about which things are going well and refocus the employee's attention on potential areas for improvement.
[Source: Kris Dunn, HR Capitalist, Birmingham, Alabama]
Regards,
Harvinder
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Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Appraisal

Dear Readers,

Greetings of the day.


My brain has been swirling with the thought of,"when will organizations move towards regular or monthly appraisals of their employees?"

Today's, "Times of India" Mumbai edition, carried an article,"Every Six Months Companies would carry out Appraisals to motivate their employees".

This is a point that has been playing in my brain for a long time.

What is an Appraisal?

Is it merely a tool to ascertain how is the employee functioning?

Is it good enough to be used only annually or every six months to know how the employee is delivering and in the process try to motivate or weed out!

Ha! Indeed what an irony !

An appraisal needs to be conducted regularly.

This is not to monitor or keep tabs on the employees.

A regular appraisal done once a month or atleast once in every quarter would be of great help to employees and organizations.

How?

Employees Fear of Appraisal Would be removed.
This is a big time point.
When done annually it instills a fear in the employees brain as to what is going to happen? what would be the end result? and many other Q's that could cross the brain.

Employees Begin to Trust in Superiors and Organization.
When done regularly, employees would know what is in the offing.
Employees would then be comfortable.
Levels of Trust would increase.

Employees have Confidence in the System.
When done regularly employees would actually start looking forward to it.
This creates confidence in the system.

Employees Would Understand better when done regularly.
The employee would begin to understand the process better and ensure that his deliveries / output is better.
This creates and ensues better productivity at higher levels and also reduce the margin of mistakes , errors of commision and ommision.

Organization benefits
The organization benefits with the least amount of disgruntled or dissatisfied employees.
The spinoffs are; less attrition rates, allround motivation , bonding and solidarity within the organization, retention and enrichment of existing Knowledge-base.

Now there is a Q here?

What is that one significant gain here with regular , monthly or quarterly appraisals?

Every Appraiser and Appraisee has a tremendous and most splendid opportunity to develop their relationship, improve levels of communication between themselves,ensue better bonding, be more approchable with respect to one another, network better, understand work related issues, synchronize working.

It is a huge gain for employees and organizations.

Organizations have taken years to come to biannual appraisal .

It may now take them decades if not eons to move towards monthly or quarterly appraisals.

It need not be said that a superior who is in regular contact and communciation with his reportees, would find that regular or monthly appraisal is much easier to accomplish and time saving, than one who is hardly communicating or is in touch.

Communicating or being in touch hardly means a curtsy originated,"Hi, bye".

It means being open , available any time the reportee needs to interact , being able to provide stimulating points for employees to think differently, arrive at solutions and sometimes being the untitled coach or mentor.

In my humble opinion and belief these few points as ensivaged above, are big spurs in themselves towards employee motivation.

I dare anyone to draw a leaf or a line from this and make the change !?

The change would be a paradigm shift in itself.

Best,

Prasad.
Dear Reader,

Greetings of the day !


I have been closely following the dimension of leadership.

What intrigues one is that leadership is a dimension everyone talks about, most have an opinion on it, still some think and practice it and are good at it, and just about four or five are excellent leaders.

In the Indian scenario,the leaders worth citing are:

Military: Field Marshal Cariaappa,Field Marshal Sam Bahadur Maneckshaw.

Politically: M.K. Gandhi,J. Nehru,Vijaya Laxmi Pandit,L.B. Shastri,
Indira Gandhi & Rajiv Gandhi.

Industry / Business: Rahul Bajaj,Narayan Murthy,Azim Premji,Jayateerth.Rao,Dr.Reddy[Apollo Group].

Spiritual / Religious: Sri Adi Shankracharya,Sri Guru Swami Madhwacharya,
Sri Guru Swami Vyasaratheertharu, Sri Guru Swami Raghavendrateertharu, Swami Ramakrishna Parmahansa, Swami Vivekananda, Sri Aurobindo, Sri Guru Nanak Dev,
Shri Sai Baba of Shirdi and a few more could be listed.

Women Leaders:Dr.Kiran Bedi,Naina Lal Kidwai,Kiran.Mazumdar.Shaw,

Now this is just on the Indian scenario.

Have a look at the international scenario.

Scan the eyes of your brain to see what you find and you come across more names in any of the above fields.

The fact exists that as a nation we are poor leaders in ourselves.

This is regardless of what our genetical make-up is,or from the family,environmental background we have had.

The world at large is facing a severe crisis of excellent leaders.

India in particular is starved of excellent leaders.

To continue with a diatribe on this is easy.

Let me pause here and invite you to read this article as extracted below.

It is titled,"A Sad Lesson In Collaborative Innovation by Ron Hadner".

http://blogs.hbr.org/cs/2012/05/a_sad_lesson_in_collaborative_innovation.html

Enjoy the read! and let your grey cells work themselves out to enable you be better and perhaps merit a lesson in learning from it.

Best,

Prasad.